First dates can feel like an interview process as you try to get to now each other and assess your compatibility. Its can also be nerve wracking and anxiety provoking. If you and you date your date share some of the same interests, the red flags were not too bad, and you both feel that it is worth exploring the situation a little more at this time, then maybe a second date is a way to get to know each other a little more.
We often here of people who have enjoyed their first date but by the time they get to the second date they feel they have run out of things to say and ask, and therefore feel they no longer have anything in common.
Second dates are about getting to know someone further. Since you've already had one ice-breaker date, and probably a few phone conversations, you are likely to feel much more at ease on your subsequent date. On a second date, conversation generally feels more natural and less forced so this is a good time to follow-up on things that were mentioned during the first date. This shows that you are a good listener and that you care.
It's also a good idea to open up a bit more during the second date. If this is to become a relationship, they must be interested in hearing about you. During this date, you can feel a bit freer to discuss hot topics such as politics, especially if it is an important subject where you must share a similar worldview. Still, you'll want to avoid deep, intense conversation. The second date is not the time for soul-baring analysis of your childhood or your past abusive relationships. If this does, in fact, progress, there will be plenty of time for mutual psychoanalysis later!
Second dates can end badly often because of the location and style of the second date. The big question is – what to do and where to go on a second date, as this can often make or break a blossoming relationship. Take the pressure of yourself and maybe try and combine an activity with getting to know a person further.
We are going to encourage all of you to try something different, not to go for coffee or dinner, but maybe something a little out of the box. If an activity is involved you begin sharing a history and have things in common. Consider what you know your date enjoys and suggest something different to do based on this. Your date I’m sure will be impressed! Don’t forget to continue to look your best because impressions will still count.
Why don’t you consider some of the following date suggestions:
· Drinks after work
· Bowling
· A movie
· Indoor rock climbing
· Kayak around a lake, or the harbour
· A walk
· A jazz club or music venue
· The zoo, or aquarium
· An art gallery
· Live shows or the theatre
· Out door market
· Bike riding
· A scenic drive
· Bush walking
· Comedy clubs
· Trivia night
· A festival – food, wine, music etc
